Skinny Shaming Is A Real Thing

Let's get real today, many people seem to think that skinny shaming is acceptable. Suggesting certain women really need to get a pizza or a burger and eat the whole thing it is an unacceptable joke. People only hear about fat shaming but skinny shaming is a real problem too.

Body shaming
NounThe action or practice of humiliating someone by making mocking or critical comments about their body shape or size.

Don't get me wrong, I have had positive comments like I can pull of anything because I am skinny, that I could be a model and I have had girls tell me that they would kill to have my body however I have been asked how sad it is not having a big ass, I have been told that the wind will blow me away and that men do not want bones, they want curves (especially from the African community). Bones, too skinny, toothpick are just a few of the names I've been called over the years. Instead of being greeted with a typical "Hey, how are you" you often hear "you are…

For Your Own Peace

Nothing is worse than being in a relationship, friendship or partnership with people who are half in and half out. Be all in or nothing at all. -Tony A. Gaskins Jr.
For the past few months I have been going through some period of change and this moment of hitting rock button forced me to start making changes in my life and one of the biggest change was to take a really good look at the people in my life. Why waste time and energy on "ships" that only bring us down and make us feel bad when we are untitled to choose our own friends or partners?

The emotions or conduct of friends
  • The state of being friend; state of mutual trust and support.

Friends come in all shapes and sizes but the ones that have a big impact in our lives are the life long friends who you see once in a while but feel like no time has passed when you finally get to catch up, as well as the sisters we never had, the border line same sex relationship you have with your best-friend(s).
I took a closer look at the people around me and realised that I needed to weed out crab grass from my lawn. With this in mind I dug out the deep rooted weeds that had been taking my energy and took time to nurture the few friendship I truly valued, the ones who wouldn't be upset if I was busy and couldn't see them or call them but instead will understand, the ones I could talk positive and meaningful things with when we got together, like how our life aspirations were coming along and laugh about fun and fond memories. Focusing on them created trust, peace and security in my life and made me happier. After all if you did not blend well your eyeshadow or foundation, you need a trusted friend to tell you instead of going out looking like a clown.

Make sure you watch people you keep around. We don't need people around us who will be poisoning other people's opinions about us or who will tell others things you discussed with them privately. We don't need people around us who only want to bring us down, friendships are supposed to be supportive and encouraging but not antagonistic and polarising.

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Be honest with yourself and take a good look at what is keeping you from being happy. Life is too short to waste time and energy on negativity, be it in form of friends or anything else you can think of. Cut all the weeds taking up space and reclaim it for something positive.
"Do not keep on with a mockery of friendship after the substance is gone but part, while you can part friends. Bury the carcass of friendship; it is not worth embalming" - William Hazlitt

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Xoxo, Arielle


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