Skinny Shaming Is A Real Thing

Let's get real today, many people seem to think that skinny shaming is acceptable. Suggesting certain women really need to get a pizza or a burger and eat the whole thing it is an unacceptable joke. People only hear about fat shaming but skinny shaming is a real problem too.

Body shaming
NounThe action or practice of humiliating someone by making mocking or critical comments about their body shape or size.

Don't get me wrong, I have had positive comments like I can pull of anything because I am skinny, that I could be a model and I have had girls tell me that they would kill to have my body however I have been asked how sad it is not having a big ass, I have been told that the wind will blow me away and that men do not want bones, they want curves (especially from the African community). Bones, too skinny, toothpick are just a few of the names I've been called over the years. Instead of being greeted with a typical "Hey, how are you" you often hear "you are…


Allow me to start with a confession: the person who came with the idea of making suits for women is my favourite trendsetter because wearing suits is my favourite trend that has made the HERstory.
Now let's get a little personal, we can all agree that we live in a world where society and culture tries to constrain women. Being a female in this world is a whole other experience.

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I cannot count the amount of times I have been judged because I wear makeup, because I have long nails, because I love heels, because I am the way I am. Some people don't understand that you can wear red lipstick, you can love beauty, you can be "girly" and still be intelligent. It all go back to the quote that says "don't judge a book by its cover". Every single person is different, some girls hate makeup and others love it, the fact that I love beauty does not define me and certainly not make me dumb. Personally, I want to conquer the world looking fabulous.

People have come straight up to me asking about my studies and after all the questions they can possibly ask, they will be surprised and even confess that they have always thought I wasn't that smart, that I don't look like someone who can be "that intelligent" and that I am just a pretty face with no depth of understanding of anything "relevant". I am not really someone who gets offended easily so I always laugh about it because I don't allow anything to define or to limit me, I know who I am. You don't have to choose between being smart and sexy. You can be both, in fact YOU ARE BOTH.

In life people will always try to hold you back no matter what and regardless of who you are, but always remember this: don't let anything define you, don't let anyone dull your sparkle and make you feel less than the person you are. Sometimes you can be as weak as your mind tells you, you are and that is okay but when you reach a breakthrough you better become as strong and brave as a lion in a jungle. You can do anything you put your mind to regardless of your gender.

While you are at it, kindly check out the latest video on my youtube channel: BH Cosmetics X ItsMyRayeRaye

Xoxo, Arielle


  1. I love every single word I read here! "You don't have to choose between smart and sexy, you can be both, in fact you are both." Absolutely amazing. Totally agree girl. Keep it up.

  2. Personally cant relate the feeling I got after viewing this out, no words can the efforts and inputs you put up to get this far��, I'm also finishing up my website shit. Why I tell people to be real, smart, loyal, faithful and stay committed to their dreams, goals and projects or plans. Lastly but ain't least just keeping going and never let go. If you ain't yet where you wanna be, I know you will one day. If you know you know��✔����������������


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