Skinny Shaming Is A Real Thing

Let's get real today, many people seem to think that skinny shaming is acceptable. Suggesting certain women really need to get a pizza or a burger and eat the whole thing it is an unacceptable joke. People only hear about fat shaming but skinny shaming is a real problem too.

Body shaming
NounThe action or practice of humiliating someone by making mocking or critical comments about their body shape or size.

Don't get me wrong, I have had positive comments like I can pull of anything because I am skinny, that I could be a model and I have had girls tell me that they would kill to have my body however I have been asked how sad it is not having a big ass, I have been told that the wind will blow me away and that men do not want bones, they want curves (especially from the African community). Bones, too skinny, toothpick are just a few of the names I've been called over the years. Instead of being greeted with a typical "Hey, how are you" you often hear "you are…

Truth Be Told

Matching couples attire is a lovely way people show that they are in a loving and romantic relationship and for those who do not know, we are wearing Ankara or Kitenge (as we call it in my language) outfits. Kitenge is one of the most loved fabrics for most African women and men if not all of them, which is not surprising that Kitenge style for couples is becoming more popular nowadays, let’s be honest Kitenge is taking over. There is almost nothing cuter than a couple that dresses in matching outfits, it's worn by lovers and connected with love. Are you going out for a date or an event with your significant other? His and hers Kitenge outfit can never go wrong, trust me.

I know you have questions regarding the man in these pictures and to answer your question, yes this is BAE, my Champ (because he is a champion in my eyes), the one who is so right for me, he is the one God blessed me with, he’s the Mr to my Mrs and I can confidently say that he is a total keeper.
When and how you know he is a keeper? When you can see pride in his eyes whenever you are by his side, he makes you feel safe, he remembers more than the trivial things, he is affectionate (don't confuse being affectionate with being sensual), he has the ability to make you laugh so hard it makes your stomach hurts. He's a total keeper when he doesn't make you feel bad for being yourself and he also tends to bring out the best in you or when he will try to squeeze you in his day no matter how busy he is or even replace his plans with you. If you come across a guy who carries these traits, he's a keeper in my book. I know you want to know more but that will be a post for another time.

But here is something I have learnt; we are all attracted by the physical aspects of a person to begin with and that is not enough to keep you two together because the lust will fade, physical features are so fleeting but if you like your partner as a person, a person who you can talk to about anything, share your secrets with without judging, spend hours together without the feeling of needing space or room and add on top of that companionship and loyalty, then that is it. A few days ago I got a notification from LOVE CARTER that says: "Just because he’s cute does not mean he’s not ugly. A lot of men suddenly become unattractive once you find out how they think or move" a guy with a great personality is way more attractive to a woman than a guy who has "the look".

I am so grateful I have found that special someone who has my back and will be there to catch me, the one who gives me all the love and support I need and with whom I will be wearing matching outfits with *wink*. I am so excited and honoured to see where the future will take us and wherever the road takes us, I am glad we get to walk down that road together, creating so many beautiful memories along the way.

Earrings: HM, Ring: Forever 21 , Watch: Cluse , Shoes: a gift

With Love,


  1. Woooow!!! This is very beautiful! I am very happy for you and proud of not only the woman but also the Queen you are. And I salute your King. You all stay gorgeous and keep it up with the matching clothes.

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  5. Great design very very beautiful designs


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