Skinny Shaming Is A Real Thing

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Let's get real today, many people seem to think that skinny shaming is acceptable. Suggesting certain women really need to get a pizza or a burger and eat the whole thing it is an unacceptable joke. People only hear about fat shaming but skinny shaming is a real problem too.

Body shaming
NounThe action or practice of humiliating someone by making mocking or critical comments about their body shape or size.

Don't get me wrong, I have had positive comments like I can pull of anything because I am skinny, that I could be a model and I have had girls tell me that they would kill to have my body however I have been asked how sad it is not having a big ass, I have been told that the wind will blow me away and that men do not want bones, they want curves (especially from the African community). Bones, too skinny, toothpick are just a few of the names I've been called over the years. Instead of being greeted with a typical "Hey, how are you" you often hear "you are skinny, you need to eat" mostly to family gathering but to be polite you only smile and move on with another conversation.

When I was younger I always laughed off and brushed off comments about my weight and I still do but sometimes they bother me, specially when coming from someone I am close to. For some people it is even depressing and it is especially harmful to girls who are still becoming comfortable in their own skin. I know this because I have had girls coming to me asking how to deal with skinny shaming. To be honest I love my body the way it is and I have never wished to be like anyone else, those who know me can testify to this. I have ninety nine percent self confidence, if not hundred but I am a human and I have feelings that can be hurt and so does everyone else. Calling someone "skinny" is more hurtful than you think.

Body shaming in any form is oppressive, there is no body type for "real women", physical appearance or body size has nothing to do with how real of a woman you are. Real women love themselves no matter what size they are, they are naturally slim, they are plus size, they work out, they are curvious, they are strong, they have integrity, they are kind and most of all they absolutely do not make mocking and hurtful comments about the body type of another woman. Every woman is beautiful, big or small and there is enough room for everyone to shine.

To whoever is experiencing body shaming, always remember that it is not about you, it is about another person's view of you. I am naturally skinny, I gain weight sometimes and I loose weight too. I have learned that my weight will always be a talking point to some whether I like it or not. The thing is, there are not two or three people who are exactly alike, and that is why we should not create unrealistic expectations for what the perfect female body should look like. In case you did not know, our differences are what make us beautiful and unique, in fact diversity should be celebrated.


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